I’m refereeing clean up right now. Not five minutes in, and flags should already be thrown for holding, delays, and (very) unsportsmanlike conduct. We’ve even dealt with two minor injuries from tripping (over their own toys). I want to jump in, start cleaning and get the job done. But I can’t. Here’s why- they need to learn responsibility. According to a study from University of Minnesota professor Marty Rossum, “the best predictor of young adults’ success in their mid-20’s was that they participated in household tasks when they were three or four.”
My children are three and four. Here’s why research from the University of Minnesota and other child experts say little ones should pick up a chore or two:
Cleaning Teaches Responsibility
What happens after your children go to sleep? If you’re picking up toys and shoes (like we usually are), your children aren’t seeing the time, effort and organization that goes into keeping a clean house. Putting them in charge of toy (or shoe) pick up gives them control and ownership over their belongings. They’ll need to be able to find and keep their toys in good shape in order to play with them.
Cleaning Improves Self Esteem, Emotional Maturity
Does anyone really enjoy cleaning? It can be down right frustrating at times, and there are probably dozens of other things anyone would rather be doing. Cleaning teaches children as young as preschool age how to handle frustration and delay gratification. There’s also pride in accomplishing a task, especially one that requires learning new skills.
Cleaning Builds Relationships
No, young children can’t contribute to the family by working and paying bills. They also cannot run errands or drive carpool. But they can help clean. You are pulling them off the bench, letting them participate and perhaps, allowing to make a few calls.
So, playroom clean up was A LOT slower tonight. It took nearly an hour to accomplish a task that would’ve taken my husband or about ten minutes. There is also a three-year-old crying at my feet. But I know it will get easier. Right?
